Dear Abby advises a mom of a daughter who can’t make friends at school and a person who may be working with a thief.
My daughter is in eighth grade at a small private school. The problem is, she doesn’t have any friends there. Away from school she makes friends easily. But around classmates she has known for years, she’s quiet and awkward. She isn’t invited to parties or other fun activities. She wants to make friends and join in conversations but doesn’t know how. Her dad and I tell her high school will be easier, but she doesn’t want to wait.
The subject of social dexterity has been in my column before because readers of all ages ask about it. It’s important to understand that few individuals are born socially adept. It’s a skill that must be learned, then polished until it becomes second nature. Part of being social is showing an interest in others. A smile is an excellent icebreaker, and one of the secrets of being charming is being a good listener. The keys to being liked by both sexes are simple: Be kind. Be honest. Be tactful.
I publish a booklet, “How To Be Popular,” for people of all ages. It contains many other useful tips for polishing social skills. You can order one for your daughter by sending your name and address, plus a check or money order for $8 , to: Dear Abby Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price.
Some people are anxious socially because they become so focused on their own insecurities, it distracts them from reaching out. The solution to that is: Concentrate on theOne of my co-workers comes to work with different clothes all the time. I overheard her telling another co-worker she buys clothes, hides the tags, then returns them after she wears them. She said she avoids wearing perfume so the clothes don’t “smell.” She also pays cash. In my opinion, this is a form of stealing.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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