I don’t want them to be surprised, but I don’t want to make a big deal out of it, either.
My dad had a stroke. My siblings and I needed someone to care for him, since we all work full time. We didn’t want to put him into a nursing hme.
I asked my stepson, “Miles,” who was living in Tennessee, if he could help us out by moving to Washington state and caring for Dad during the day , given that Dad needed 24/7 care.Because he was helping us, we didn’t ask him to pay rent. His generosity saved us thousands of dollars in nursing home fees, and Dad was much happier living at home.Miles is still living with me in the house because I inherited Dad’s two dogs. He takes care of the dogs and such while I’m gone for various reasons.
The problem is, my sister thinks Miles should now pay rent until the home is sold. My brother and I disagree with her. My brother says if it’s fine with me, it’s fine with him. I feel like I’m “paying it forward” for the help Miles gave not only to us, but our dad. He earns a minimal salary and pays for half the utilities and most of the food. Asking him for rent until we sell the house feels selfish to me, given that he unselfishly relinquished his previous life for my family.NEEDING GUIDANCE IN WASHINGTONYour stepson is selfless and generous. I do not think he should be expected to pay to live with you under these circumstances, so stand your ground.
However, I do think that Miles should be giving serious thought to finding a job that will pay him more than a “minimal” salary because in six months, once your father’s house is sold, he’ll need a roof over his head.Related Articles
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