'What’s the point of talking about how sad you are when the sadness is unavoidable and nonnegotiable?' asks SophiaDembling, weighing the pros and cons of grief therapy
So grief counseling is not to make you less sad, but less tortured. “In psychology we talk about the distinction between pain and suffering,” says Cleary. “With death, there is pain in the form of grief and we are not going to be able to change that, nor is it our goal to change that.
, shoulds about how we should be doing, how we should be feeling, what we should or shouldn’t be doing.”Cleary believes that many people can benefit from some sort of grief counseling, in part for theit can provide. “There are a lot of unrealistic expectations around grief,” she says. “Grief can be intensely physical, it can be accompanied by a lot of fatigue. It’s also very cognitively demanding for us to try to make sense of and adjust to a world without a loved one.
For people who don’t know these things—which is probably everyone who has not experienced intense grief—these experiences can be confusing and worrying. However, Neimeyer points out, grief education is lacking not only among the general population, but also among therapists. “There are few, if any, programs in which the wordis spoken in the graduate classroom,” he says. “In the presence of that existential reality, many therapists may feel helpless.”
This is one reason some people give up on grief counseling. One woman I know who lost her husband tried three therapists but felt that all she did with them was ruminate, which was making her feel worse rather than better. Ultimately she found the
Ireland Latest News, Ireland Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
8 'Game Of Thrones' Plot Holes That Still Make Me Mad To This DayI just need to know that Hot Pie is doing okay.
Read more »
This Company Tapped AI for Its Website—and Landed in Court“There’s an untapped potential for AI to help drive and scale up how accessibility is done in digital technology, but it needs to be done carefully and judiciously.”
Read more »
Billie Eilish Calls Taylor Hawkins Death ‘Horribly, Horribly Tragic’Walking the red carpet at Sunday night’s Oscars, Billie and brother Finneas shared their grief over the Foo Fighters drummer’s sudden passing.
Read more »
Woman Quickly Smashes Plate Over Head So She’ll Have Something To Talk About At TherapyYONKERS, NY—Panicking after realizing she had absolutely nothing for their weekly session, local woman Janine Welch was reported to have quickly smashed a plate over her head Tuesday so she’d have something to talk about at therapy. “Shit, shit, I forgot that was today—how is there nothing going on in my social life,…
Read more »
10-year-old rapper using music to process griefA 10-year-old girl is using music to heal. Camille Kelley has experienced a lot of trauma and grief in a short time.
Read more »
Netflix’s ‘Human Resources’ Made the Best TV Episode of the Year—and It Was About GriefThe animated spin-off of “Big Mouth” is a raunchy, dirty comedy, so imagine the surprise when it crafted a poignant episode about loss and grief—one that feels deeply personal.
Read more »