Tell Me About It: ‘Nobody calls in to me and I think if I died, nobody would know for days’
I find myself divorced at 60 and am struggling with loneliness. My marriage was not great, but I never thought that it would end and I would be left living alone.
My own parents were very secretive and bred into us the idea that we should never let the neighbours know what was going on. I realise that this was based on a bit of fear and snobbery, but somehow this is what I have created too – nobody calls in to me and I think if I died, nobody would know for days.
The one good thing about anger is that it gives us the energy to take action, and this is really needed in your life now. Your self-awareness seems to be good, and you have insight into how you have arrived at this situation, so capitalise on this and seek psychotherapy now. There is no magic trick to connection, it is down to ordinary genuine human interest, warmth and affection. If you are honest about your loneliness and your struggles to connect, your group members will respond with kindness and support. Even your rage can be held and managed in such a group , and you might find that it has a lot to teach you about what your life needs and how you might demand a better life for yourself.
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