“They make our own stories about themselves and try to be the savior, which is usually not what we need.”
is a nice thing, without actually considering what the other person would perceive as a nice thing.”For example, if they buy me flowers when I'm pissed off that they were disrespectfully late for a date and haven't been answering texts regularly. You could just...promise not to do those things anymore, and then legitimately never do them anymore. I'd prefer that over flowers.
“It’s not about whether men like something. You could have a hundred men compliment the thing you’re insecure about, and still hate it by the end.”“When they insist on paying for everything, no matter how small — like, I’m also an adult who can pay for things.” “I know that there are women who love getting spoiled and good for them, but when someone always insists on paying, it just feels patronizing to me.”“When they talk about how they want to beat up past abusers or men who harass us. They make our own stories about themselves and try to be the savior, which is usually not what we need.