At 28 years old and fresh out of a break-up, writer Nell Frizzell sought out a male therapist. Here, she recalls how he transformed her relationships with men altogether, including her free-spirited father.
At 28 years old and fresh out of a break-up, writer Nell Frizzell found she had a dearth of men she could talk to in her life. And so, she sought out a male therapist. Here, she recalls how he transformed her relationships with men altogether, including her free-spirited father.Ten years ago, almost to the tea break, I was standing at the kettle in my then-office, unburdening myself to a colleague. Her parents, I knew, were psychotherapists.
So when I told my colleague that I needed to speak to a man, it wasn’t an expression of internalised misogyny. I had instead realised that as far as the eye could see, my life was populated with well-meaning, articulate women, with roughly my background, my principles, and who would reflect back to me several variations of all the same things I’d heard already. My mother, sisters, cousins, best friends, former housemates and co-workers: all were willing and able to listen, to comment, to unpick.
The first time I met my therapist, I felt safe but without any of the soft, maternal associations that word might evoke. His room was bare, I could smell his aftershave, he spoke very little and when he did it was with unshrinking clarity and a certain cool reasoning. He didn’t laugh at my jokes, he didn’t answer my questions about himself, nor did he react any differently when I discussed sex to when I described my bike’s new handlebars.
As a result, he has allowed me to uproot and examine some of my most formative relationships. That’s right; we’ve discussed my dad. Now, my father is an incredibly fun man. The best uncle. A great guy at a party. The one who climbed a tree at Glastonbury and could put out matches with his own feet. He is capable, community-minded, fearless and laughs easily. He can fix roofs and unblock drains, has an exceptional record collection and has travelled across the world.
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